Monday, September 8, 2008
A HURTFUL SURPRISE
I got a very hurtful surprise as I opend Megan's wedding invitation i noticed right away what was missing my name. mind you this is young lady has lived in my home her and beloved fiance for at least six months. who i haved introduced as my "daughter". and my family has gone out of thier way to make her feel apart of my family. and this is the thank you i get for being a part of her life the last seven years. lets take a vote on who thinks i should attend this wedding
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LETS ALL CHANT " HELL NO WE WONT GO, HELL NO WE WONT GO!" IM SORRY HOLL.
Unlike Megan who did not put a lot of thought into her decision, you should probably take some time to make YOUR decision. She now has to live with this forever, so think wisely about what you want to do. Like your sis-in-law suggested, put your heart and feelings aside and use your head to guide you in the right direction.
I have an easier choice to make. I am declining to attend. As Megan so astutely put it, you and her dad are not legally married, so she does not have to recognize you as his partner. If this is the case, then she should not send out invitations for wedding to your family since we have no "legal" ties to her.
You don't have it as easy as I do in regards to this... Troy is your partner, you will always be connected because of Em, and Megan will always be his daughter. Tread lightly here dear sister. You will have to live with the fallout of your decision every day of your life with Troy.
I love you and know you will do what is you feel is the right thing.
*muah*
Your sister is a wise women. You should take her advise. :) Love Ya!
WELL....The second we hung up after you told me this news, I texted my mom because she lived through this with a young man she raised, fed, clothed, paid Dr bills for and finaly her and my Dad put him through college. He graduated right along with my "real" brother and moved back to live close to his REAL family because he was grown and educated and had a backbone and his dad couldn't beat and push him around anymore. Funny about blood and water. Hol- believe it or not, one day the spoiled heartless brat will grow a conscience...and may even want to make friends...again.
But like Jen says this is easy for us, because I too love and support your extended family when they love and support you. When they intentionally hurt and slight you...not so much. But you have the Em and Troy factor to consider. Although she may not have meant it as such she also slapped her dad up side the head with this disrespect. You are his choice. You are whom he choses to spend his life with as we can see in SEVEN YEARS OF COMMITTMENT! (unlike some peoples 2 month trial run and then making it "LEGAL!")
Im done ranting Hol but just know she is immature, and unable to make adult decisions..and whatever you decide Im with ya! MEGAN WILL HAVE TO PUT HER BIG GIRL PANTIES ON AND DEAL WITH IT! LOVE YA TIFF
You are a Beautiful person who has own Love and Compassion to everyone you touch. But in that you leave yourself open to being the doormat for the door you open to others!!! Yes, at almost 60, I have been the door and the mat for many family members and strangers too. You have to know in your heart you are and have done the right things. We mats seem to choose fence sitters that support US, but do NOT get involved with the hurtful family stuff, so, we go it alone. You will be OK, your concience is clear. The reason you will loose sleep is from hurt. Beileve it or not you are the lucky one. They will toss and turn from Guilt and knowing God is watching if they are truly Christians as they claim. But when you turn your back on someone you love, you turn your back on Jesus, He would never do that for you. He died so they too can make their petty points however farfetched they push the bounds in the name of religion! So Smile and Let them beat up on some other kind soul! Love your Firymom
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